“You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution. Change is inevitable, personal growth is always a personal decision.” – Bob Proctor
At one point or another, all of us get in our own way and place limits on ourselves. On the surface, these limits are seemingly out of our control and because of that, we believe we can’t change them.
For example, maybe you saw an ad for your dream job and you’d love to apply, but you don’t have the credentials listed on the posting so you don’t bother trying. You walk away from that experience with the belief that you’ll never be able to make a living doing what you want, and you feel totally disempowered.
But, the reality is you could still apply for that job and see what happens — you never know! What’s more, you could make a checklist of all of the credentials you’re missing, and set goals to achieve those things. Then when you see a similar job posting in the future, you’ll be well equipt to submit an application and get hired.
For many of us, the above example is how we approach many situations in our lives. We hold ourselves back from greatness because we’re afraid we can’t do something, or we don’t believe we have the skills necessary, or we don’t think we’re good enough.
So what can you do to empower yourself and stop holding yourself back from greatness? Start with these 5 things right now:
1.) Let Go of Self-Doubts
“I can’t do this.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t have enough (insert skill/resource).”
You know that voice in your head that tells you, you can’t do something or aren’t good enough?
Stop listening to it. I repeat — STOP LISTENING TO IT!
That voice doesn’t serve your greater good, it’s just there as a result of conditioned thinking. That’s why you have to let it go. It has no power unless you say it does.
Every time you hear it say, “You can’t do (insert)” say aloud to yourself, “I can do (insert)” three times.
Eventually, that voice of doubt will become quiet, and be replaced with an abundance of confidence and self-belief.
2.) Focus on Your ‘Why’
Your “why” is the underlying reason you do something or want something. It’s the thing that keeps you committed to your dreams and goals even when the going gets tough.
Whenever you’re feeling afraid of failure or the unknown, or worried you’ll be judged by others, or facing challenges in your life continue to focus on your why.
Say, “The reason I am doing (insert thing) is because (insert reason why).”
Doing this will bring you continuous clarity and comfort and allow you to push away self-doubts.
3.) Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Each of us is born different and unique. We all have our own journey to travel upon while here on earth, and no two paths are identical.
That’s why comparison is useless — it does nothing other than serve as a tool to make use feel bad about ourselves, or as a way for us to make excuses for why we can’t or won’t do something.
You aren’t your co-worker. You aren’t (insert celebrity). You aren’t your sister or brother or friend. You are you. And you’re the only you on this earth, so stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on figuring out how YOU can work to become a better version of yourself instead.
4.) Give Yourself Credit (Often)
Did you make a goal to eat healthier, and actually follow through on day one? AMAZING!
But rather than acknowledging you’re doing great and on the right track, you instead criticize yourself for being unhealthy before.
Did you begin a project you’ve been putting off for a long time? GO YOU!
But rather than being excited, you’re upset you didn’t begin sooner.
Have you made a commitment to yourself to start making better decisions and you are? INCREDIBLE!
But rather than being happy, you instead disappointed by all of your bad decisions in the past.
All of the above are examples of good things that should be celebrated with a pat on the back, as is everything else you do or accomplish that has a positive impact on your life or anyone else’s!
Unfortunately, it’s all too common in today’s world for most of us to obsessively criticize ourselves, and everything we do. And when we’re hypercritical of ourselves, we lose momentum, feel bad and ignore the good stuff we are doing.
Rather than focusing on the negatives, focus on the positives. What did you do well today? Celebrate it, and give yourself some credit!
5.) Give Up The Ridiculous Idea of Perfection
Perfection doesn’t exist — it’s an illusion sold to us throughout our lives that we eventually buy into. Sell those worthless stocks and instead buy into the valuable reality that perfection isn’t real, so you’re wasting your time waiting for it.
Instead of waiting for the “perfect time” to do something — just do it or begin.
Rather than trying to make yourself “perfect” focus on making yourself a better version of you!
Surrender to life. Accept where you are, and take action from there. Your life is both a masterpiece and a work in progress, and it always will be until you take your last breath.
Above all remember, “problems” are only problems if you believe they are. You have the power within you to overcome any obstacle life throws your way. Stop holding yourself back, and use these 5 tips to harbor more self-love, belief, happiness, and success today!
About Antasha Durbin: Antasha is a spiritual writer, life-long student of the universe, and psychic tarot card reader. Her website, cajspirituality.com, is dedicated to casualizing the spiritual experience and making it attainable for anyone, anywhere, anytime. Follow her for free, easy-to-digest and highly actionable advice on spirituality, mindfulness and empowered living.