“To succeed in life you need two things: ignorance and confidence.” – Mark Twain
The journey to personal success isn’t linear — it involves many sacrifices, much exploration, a lot of failure and a lot of learning.
However, if you’re committed to making YOUR dreams become a reality, then they will. Everything you want good, you can have.
But, sometimes, it’s not our desire that holds us back from achieving greatness — it’s our habits. When our habits are out of synch with our desires, we don’t accomplish what we want to because it’s our DAILY actions that ultimately determine how successful we’ll be.
That’s why it’s SO important you’re conscious of your daily habits because sometimes, those habits are toxic, and they’re holding YOU back from greatness.
Here are 7 insanely toxic habits you need to destroy to find personal success:
1.) Lack of Clarity
For many of us, lack of clarity is what holds us back from achieving personal success because our lives aren’t being led in a certain direction — instead they’re going every which way, or remaining stagnant.
When it comes to achieving personal success, you have to first figure out what your dream is. You can do this by asking yourself, and then answering the following questions:
What does success mean to me?
What is it that I want to achieve in MY lifetime?
What are the steps that I need to take to get to where I want to be?
Once you answer these questions, you’ll have clarity which will act as your guiding compass and lead you toward your own path of success.
2.) Lack of Commitment
Even if you have clarity, but you lack the commitment it takes to be successful, then you’ll never achieve the things you want to achieve.
Commitment is crucial in making your dreams come true. You have to change the things you know you should do, into the things you have to do. As Tony Robbins says, “The difference between ‘must’ and ‘should’ is the life you want and the life you have.”
Start today, and stop making excuses for why things aren’t getting done.
3.) Being Unfocused
All of us have the same 24 hours in every day and the only difference between you and other people you admire for their accomplishments are how they choose to spend their time.
Do you find yourself frequently wasting time rather than getting things done?
Do you sleep in late, rather than wake up early?
Do you watch TV every day?
Do you spend hours idly on social media?
Stop wasting your time, and start focusing on using your time to achieve the things you want to achieve.
4.) Not Sticking to a Routine
If you want to be successful, you need to have a daily routine you follow. Your routine should be set up in a way that’s manageable and practical. Don’t try to be a superhero and get everything done at once — you’ll end up overwhelmed and lose momentum.
Instead, figure out how much time you can realistically spend nurturing your dream while still balancing your other responsibilities and commitments. Then, create a routine that works with your schedule and STICK TO IT!
It only takes 21 days to re-wire your brain and 90 days to create a new habit. Once you do this, you’ll be well on your way to finding success!
5.) Believing Other People Are Special and You’re Not
If you don’t think you’re special you need to check yourself right now. There isn’t a human being walking this planet that doesn’t have something unique and amazing to offer the world.
The problem is, most people forget they’re special, and instead end up blending with the status quo. And the ones that break away from this are the ones we think are special because they’re “different” and were “destined for greatness” or they’re “lucky” or “(insert excuse)”.
Greatness is inside of you. It’s inside of me. It’s inside of all of us. And it’s our RESPONSIBILITY to harness it and offer it to the world.
6.) Pointing Fingers and Blaming Others
“My childhood was terrible. My parents ruined me.”
“I grew up without money and resources, it’s impossible for me to make it.”
“My job is holding me back.”
“The government is set up to work against me.”
In life, we make excuses for everything — especially when it comes to not taking responsibility for our own decisions and actions.
But, if you want to be successful, you have to stop pointing fingers and blaming others for your lack of action or accomplishment. Be accountable, and let go of the entitlement that other people are at fault.
This is your life, and it’s the only one you have. No one is responsible for making you happy, or creating success for you but YOU.
7.) Needing to Have All of the Answers
You don’t need to have all of the answers when you set out to be successful. In fact, it’s WAY better if you don’t. You know why?
Curiosity is what breads learning, and encourages exploration. If you always look for the ‘why’ behind something, you’ll constantly be progressing, trying new things and making the necessary adaptations to reach your goal.
In contrast, if you try to have all of the answers before you begin, you’ll never get started. There are way too many options, and potential paths you can take, and you’ll end up feeling overwhelmed. You may even start to believe your version of success is impossible to attain, but I promise you it’s not.
Find the answers as you go. And continue to ask questions. The journey is what you’ll look fondly upon, not the end goal.
Above all, remember success is what you make it. Your version of success might be entirely different from other people’s. What’s important is that you’re always following YOUR heart, YOUR journey, and YOUR path because then, and only then, will you end up where you were meant to be.
About Antasha Durbin: Antasha is a spiritual writer, life-long student of the universe, and psychic tarot card reader. Her website, cajspirituality.com, is dedicated to casualizing the spiritual experience and making it attainable for anyone, anywhere, anytime. Follow her for free, easy-to-digest and highly actionable advice on spirituality, mindfulness and empowered living.