How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

“Sometimes life is about risking everything for a dream no one can see but you.” 

I used to pretend I wanted to be a successful writer. I’d always tell people, “One day, I’ll write a book and it will become a bestseller. I’ll be able to work from anywhere, and have financial freedom.”

But, anyone who looked closely at my actions wouldn’t find me writing anything (except maybe a social media update or text message). My actions contradicted my words.

I was pretending I wanted to be a writer. I was pretending I wanted financial freedom. And I was pretending I wanted personal success. At the time, it seemed easier to live how I was living than to take action and risk being vulnerable, or failing, or both.

In retrospect, I WISH I could have those years back. I can only imagine how much further along I would be in my journey had I started sooner. But the reality is, I wasn’t ready and I wasn’t willing.

And this is a chapter most of us experience in our lives. We only do a tiny, minute fraction of what we’re capable of doing because we think it’s easier to live in a known hell than to take a chance on an unknown heaven.

Does this describe you?

If it does then take this as a sign that it’s time for you to stop pretending you want to go after some dream or goal, and actually take action and do it.

Here’s how: 

1.) Stop Making Excuses

How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

“I’m too tired.”

“I’ll do it later.”

“I don’t have the time.”

“I need to feel inspired first.”

Your excuses aren’t going to get you anywhere, nor are they going to improve your life. The only thing your excuses offer you is a lost opportunity.

If you don’t want to stay stuck where you are, then stop making excuses. Each time you catch yourself making an excuse for why you “can’t” do something that would allow you to progress yourself and your dreams, take immediate action.

2.) Reprioritize Your Life 

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Is your schedule benefiting you?

Are your current habits serving your highest good?

If you answered no to the above questions, then the things you’re doing on a daily basis are keeping you stuck in the “pretending state” rather than creating the momentum you need to move forward.

Take a good look at your routine and the things you do daily – especially unconsciously. How much time do you waste on social media? Watching TV? Laying around doing nothing? How much time do you spend being proactive when it comes to your dreams and goals? 

Be honest with yourself as you answer these questions, and figure out where you can adapt your current schedule to prioritize your dreams and goals. Then create a new schedule for yourself where the primary focus is on you doing what’s necessary to bring your dreams into fruition.

3.) Show, Don’t Tell

How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

It’s one thing to say you’re going to do something. It’s another to actually do it.

Rather than telling everyone around you what you want your life to look like, show them instead by taking consistent action and creating the circumstances necessary to allow those dreams of yours to come to fruition.

Always back your claims up with action. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Otherwise, your words will lose power and meaning to you and everyone around you.

4.) Believe in Yourself

How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

Beliefs are powerful. They impact everything in our lives from the thoughts we think, to the words we speak, to the actions we take, to our feelings about ourselves and the world around us.

When you believe you’re capable of doing something, achieving it becomes unquestionable. You know it’s possible, and your doubts are removed and you take the actions necessary to make that thing a reality. In contrast, when you don’t believe you’re capable of doing something, your mind is filled with doubt and fear which then causes you to stay stuck in a place of inaction.

Without self-belief, your dreams won’t come into fruition and you’ll block your own greatness.

Get out of your way! Believe in yourself, and know that whatever you want for your life IS possible.

If self-doubts, fears, and limiting beliefs are holding you back, make sure you check out Manifestation Mindset. It’s an online course I created to help people just like you release past hurt, rewire negative thinking patterns, and let go of self-doubts and fears for good!

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5.) Use “I Am” Consciously

How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

When you think of the words, “I am” what usually comes next for you? Are your statements primarily negative or positive?

The words “I am” are incredibly powerful because whatever follows these words is what shapes your reality.

For example: 

“I am stupid.”

“I am a failure.”

“I am unlucky.” 

If these are the kind of statements you’re making after “I am” then you’re keeping yourself stuck in an unpleasant reality that won’t allow you to bring your dreams into fruition.

Whenever you say “I am (insert)” do so consciously. Make sure your statement reflects the kind of life you want to create for yourself.

For example: 

“I am powerful.”

“I am capable.”

“I am successful.”

By becoming conscious about how you talk to and about yourself, and making sure whatever “I am” statement you make is personally empowering, you’ll have an easier time bringing your dreams into fruition.

Above all remember, you’re only one decision away from an entirely different life. Make a commitment to yourself and your dreams and choose at least one of the above suggestions to action within the next 24 hours. Your new life is waiting…



About Antasha Durbin: Antasha is a spiritual writer, life-long student of the universe, and psychic tarot card reader. Her website,, is dedicated to casualizing the spiritual experience and making it attainable for anyone, anywhere, anytime. Follow her for free, easy-to-digest and highly actionable advice on spirituality, mindfulness and empowered living.

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3 thoughts on “How to Stop Pretending and Start Doing (When it Comes to Bringing Your Dreams Into Fruition)

    1. You are the sweetest 🙂 I hope you are having a wonderful day!

      Sending you big love! Xx,

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