“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” – Søren Aabye Kierkegaard
Most of us grow up believing we need to get a certain degree, work in a certain position, achieve a certain title and attain certain goals to be happy or successful.
But, as life so generously shows us time and time again there are no guarantees. There are no future promises. Now is the only time that truly matters and exists.
And still, we spend too much time stressing over little things that in the grand scheme really don’t matter. Life itself is our purpose, and if we can view it as such we won’t be so offended or upset by the circumstances it puts in our path — instead, we’ll be able to learn and grow from them.
Here are 5 ways you can shift your perspective and start seeing life as what it truly is — your ultimate purpose and teacher:
1.) Learn From Death, Don’t Fear It
We are only incarnated on this planet for a brief moment in time and then our physical bodies die and we go back to our true, spiritual form.
But all too often we spend our lives living in denial. We think we can put things off for later because we’ll have ample time to get to them — but there are no guarantees.
Every minute that passes brings us one minute closer to “physical” death, and this isn’t a morbid notion, it’s a freeing one because once we understand this, we can move past the things that don’t matter and focus on what does: our life experience.
Physical death is inevitable — it will come, so rather than fearing it, start each day by asking yourself, “If the breath were to exhale from my body right now and not come back in, is this what I’d want to be doing?”
If the answer is no, it’s time to make changes in your life. If the answer is yes, then keep on doing what you’re doing!
2.) Forgive Freely and Without Expectation
When we feel hurt, or wronged by others, oftentimes we end up harboring anger, resentment and other negative emotions.
But here’s the thing: long-term negative feelings and emotions don’t serve us, they hurt us by blocking us from moving forward with our lives in a positive and healthy way.
Rather than hurting yourself by harboring these emotions, let them go. Don’t wait for an apology or an explanation (or you may spend your entire life waiting). Forgive others regardless of what they’ve done or said so you can move on with your life.
3.) Treat People Like You’ll Never See Them Again
Most of us take the people in our lives for granted. We have this notion there will always be a next time, but one day there won’t.
Rather than fighting, holding grudges, getting upset over petty things and saying/doing things you might regret, instead treat every interaction with those around you as if it will be your last.
Uplift those around you. Love them unconditionally and tell them you love them every day! Forgive easily. And above all, be kind.
Anything can change in the blink of an eye, so why take the chance? Live a regret-free life filled with happy, healthy relationships!
4.) Embrace Change, Even When It Scares You
Like it or not, we’re all signed up for a lifetime of change. So what’s the point in resisting it?
Rather than trying to paddle upstream, against the current, flow with life. Life is constantly in the process of re-directing us so we can continue to learn and grow as we move through this physical experience.
And none of us are exactly the same today as we were yesterday, or last year, or ten years ago. Our lives and circumstances are always in the process of shifting and changing, and oftentimes this process feels scary and intimidating because it propels us into unknown territory.
And guess what happens then? We learn. We grow. We thrive.
Embrace change. Even when it scares you because the scarier the change, the bigger the lesson.
5.) Be A Willing Student of Life
Life itself is our purpose — not our degrees, material assets or careers. It’s through this physical journey that we’re able to learn and grow.
And in order to make the most of this experience, we have to stop making excuses, wasting our time and procrastinating. Instead, we must hone our talents, step outside of our comfort zones frequently, and make it a priority to learn from life every single day.
By being life’s willing student, you’ll move through this physical experience at an accelerated pace and soak in the wisdom of the universe — thereby discovering true happiness and personal fulfillment.
The question is, are your ready to let go of what you were conditioned to believe life should be and live your life to the fullest (regardless of where you are now!)?
About Antasha Durbin: Antasha is a spiritual writer, life-long student of the universe, and psychic tarot card reader. Her website, cajspirituality.com, is dedicated to casualizing the spiritual experience and making it attainable for anyone, anywhere, anytime. Follow her for free, easy-to-digest and highly actionable advice on spirituality, mindfulness and empowered living.